“A cheerful frame of mind, reinforced by relaxation… is the medicine that puts all ghosts of fear on the run.”

~ George Matthew Adams, American newspaper columnist

I have heard from several folks who have a variety of issues in their homes and personal lives that they believe to be caused by spirits, negative energies and other people. Here is a short primer on some ways to deal with several of these issues…

GHOSTLY ACTIVITY

Firstly, much ghostly activity is actually negative turbulence that builds up from the people who live in the house. This can come from thoughts, words and actions…such as having arguments with others, feeling depressed, crying a lot or illness. Some houses hold it more than others due to the way light flows in the structure or due to what kind of rock the house is built over.

How to combat this:

1. Get some copper wire and twist several strands of it together while you are thinking about grounding out the negativity in the structure. You want to make four separate pieces of at least 12 inches in length. Then go outside and at the corners of your building, tack or nail one to each corner of the foundation (even if its a brick foundation) and stick the other end of it down into the ground. (If you live in an apartment try putting it behind a bush or a planter or something so as not to weird out the neighbors. However if you cannot hide it, don’t worry, humans in general are unobservant and if you do it after dark they will take no notice of it the next morning. Begin in the east and work COUNTER-clockwise until you finish in the south….remember, these are for grounding energies OUT, not for bringing energies UP.

2. You want to smudge the house or apartment COUNTER-clockwise beginning at the highest point and moving to the lowest point….saying something like “I banish from this home all wayward negativities, any and all spirits and elementals of ill intent and I protect this home from prying eyes, both incarnate and astral. Then, as you continue saying this, walk the energies to the door…cast them outside and shut the door on them.

3. Place a line of sea salt from left to right across all windowsills and entry doors. (Don’t worry if the kids or the pets get a hold of it…it will not hurt them) A note: some mystically person will eventually tell you to use Black Salt…DON”T…you will end up casting yourself out of your home and that can be dreadful if you haven’t planned for it.

HOUSE MEMORY

This is sometimes also called “place memory” since it can happen in other places besides houses, such as battlefields and hospitals. It is a phenomena that occurs when something of great emotional strength and depth happens in a place. This can sometimes create an imprint, a type of recording, upon a place.

Explaining how house memory works is difficult but a simplified explanation is that when conditions are exact to those that occurred during the original episode the recording will replay. This usually means the light within the place, the temperature, the time of year, the earth magnetics…any number of factors.

One can usually discern house memory from other phenomena by the fact that the spirits seem to be doing exactly the same thing in exactly the same part of the house every time that they appear. So if you always see a woman in an apron cooking at your stove when you get up around dawn but don’t see her when you get up a few hours later, than she is most likely a house memory. Perhaps this is what she was doing when she was at her happiest moment in her life, or her saddest. If there is a part of your house where you always think that you hear a scream and then someone running down the hall, and it only seems to happen in autumn or only around midnight, chances are that it is not a spirit but a house memory.

Getting rid of house memory is generally a rather large undertaking. It is best to understand it as house memory (a phenomena that ha no will or intent) and live with it. But if you want to get rid of it, some strong measures are required. The only way to try and dispose of it (and I say try, because there is no guarantee of success) is to change the physical layout of your house in the area that is affected. remember that we are talking about light and energy flow here. So you need to widen the hallway, open it to a room at one end, board up the nearest window or move the staircase, move the stove in the kitchen, move the kitchen and switch it with the living room, etc..

My grandmother had a spirit that lived in her house, not a house memory but similar. He wasn’t tied to the house per se but to a specific room that had been his. Her attic was divided into two rooms and one had been his. She didn’t much mind him as he had been the friend that she had purchased the house for decades before. All he ever did was come to her at night and try to show her where he had hidden something in the basement. The family thought she was nuts and she left it at that. Then, in the 1980’s, she had a chimney fire that did some damage to the attic. When the insurance came through and the repairs were made they combined the two attic rooms into one big one. The day that they took down the divided wall the ghost disappeared and hasn’t been seen since.

House memory is very similar, you gotta change its pattern by trying to figure out what energy recorded it…light, heat, magnetics, human emotion…and then take steps to change that particular energy flow. If you see a man come screaming through the living room whenever you and your husband fight in that room…there you have it…quit fighting or do it in the garage.

Sometimes house memory works in reverse.

You decide to do some remodeling. For some reason you really want to create an open walk-through form the dining room into the living room with a little half-wall to either side, something you can set a vase on. The thought of it makes you feel all warm inside. After struggling to convince your other half you get the workmen into do it. A few weeks later the room is done and you sit there, in front of the windows, admiring your work but you realize that there seems to be a shadow of a woman leaning against one of those half-walls looking in your direction. You aren’t frightened though, she gives you the same warm feeling that you had before when thinking about the construction changes. What has happened is that you were reading the imprint left by a former house memory and have inadvertently changed the house back to its original layout, making the light flow between the two rooms as it did when this woman had leaned there, looking out the window, happily enjoying life.

DEPARTED SPIRITS

Another phenomena that may be going on in your home is that there is indeed a spirit of someone departed who is terribly unpleasant. Most are not of the type that will ever HARM you or a child but they might be in the hopes of chasing you away. This has very little at all to do with you or your family and so much more to do with the experiences that they had in their own life. Hopefully in this circumstance the grounding and smudging will help.

One thing to avoid is sitting around and talking about the spirit while in your home, laughing about it or getting angry at it where it can sense this is only going to strengthen its behavior. Talking to it and more specifically putting your foot down is the best policy to begin with. Try not to speak in negatives such as “You will not disturb my sleep!” instead say “You will let me sleep in peace!” When you command a spirit or elemental you must MEAN it, with all of you will power.

If simple commands like this do not seem to work, you may also strongly but kindly point out to the spirit, out loud and on several repeated occasions, that “This house is for the living! It is my home and I choose to share it with YOU! You will be kind and accepting of those who live here! You will let us sleep, eat, dream and interact peacefully in OUR home! This is my will!”

You can always try friendship and helpfulness…get a good spirit medium or psychic (like Moi) to come in and talk to it, see if they can discern its issues and help it move on. Calling in a spiritualist from any faith who knows how to handle banishments is your last resort, never do this straight off as it can be dis-jarring for both the spirit and witnesses to the banishment.

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There are so many other types of spiritual turbulence that one can experience in the home, work place, garden etc… Things like elementals, poltergeists and such. What I have written here is just a primer to the most common occurrences. I’ll write on some other related phenomena later. Til then you have my blessings.

-Vera Nadine

“I don’t believe that ghosts are “spirits of the dead” because I don’t believe in death. In the multiverse, once you’re possible, you exist. And once you exist, you exist forever one way or another. Besides, death is the absence of life, and the ghosts I’ve met are very much alive. What we call ghosts are lifeforms just as you and I are.”
~ Paul F. Eno, Author and Paranormal Researcher

As an addition to my Medium Adventures series, a reader recently asked me this question….Should you be afraid of being a medium?

It is an interesting question. And one that several people who have “accidentally” or “purposely” developed this skill over time have probably been faced with.

To be honest because I am a trained witch, meaning a “wise woman,” who has been exposed to the paranormal on a regular basis since I was fifteen, I never really had this concern at all.

But religion and dogma are just a doorway to true spirituality. Many of us are now becoming “spiritual” and slowly dropping the restrictive “religious” approach to self development.

With this in mind, the gifted mediums who are now beginning to blossom and step onto the stage, myself included, come from all different backgrounds and carry with them a wide array of beliefs and understandings.

You may have come to this path through Buddhism, or Catholicism or through Judaism. Where you came from denotes how you will react to the realization that you are starting to develop certain abilities.

This is what annoys me about some of the blogs out there written by other psychic mediums: They speak in a pointed manner about all sorts of “negative” experiences that they’ve had.

Call it transparency or call it shock value, but it does absolutely zero to foster healing or awareness in people. It simply serves to make people keep paranormal phenomena at arms length, to essentially cut themselves off from the spiritual world and their own gifts.

What these psychics fail to realize is that their negative experiences are caused mainly by their own selves, by their approach. (Or lack thereof.)

A witch learns to Believe not just Think that they are in control of the elements and the spiritual realm. Yes, these forces can do things that we cannot do (such as materialize and dematerialize at will) but they cannot take manifest form. This fact gives us a power over them, however much that power may be rooted in the ego.

We are physical beings, but with just as strong of a spiritual energy as any paranormal phenomena. The first thing is to set up boundaries. Spirits have different levels of ability themselves. Some can hear, some can see, some just sense. Others can muster up enough force to speak and even, at times, to move things.

I just felt that shiver run through all of you. *wink, wink* Oh, come on.

So if I approach the communication with spirits, elementals entities and other extra-sensory beings with the knowledge that I am the one in control, it enables me to change my energy frequency in such a way that they understand the boundaries.

I speak to them, both internally and also out loud when I feel the need. I simply tell them that I am open, but that they will only enter when I agree, that they will not show me horrific images, that they will leave my sleep in peace and that they will not fully possess my consciousness. (Most of them do not wish to do this anyway, for how could you give them aid or tell their story if you weren’t present for the bulk of the communication?)

So that is, basically, it for setting up boundaries. Yes, it really is that simple. The key isn’t using biblical symbols or calling archangels or speaking in fancy tongues. The key is true Belief that you have the upper hand.

Think of it this way: If they were more powerful than you are in your little ole physical form, why would they need to come through you to accomplish their work? Why wouldn’t it be you needing to go through them? (Leaving aside the fact that at some points on your learning path it will be you needing to go through them to accomplish your work. That’s what they call a symbiotic relationship folks.)

Many spirits and elementals are simple in nature and not some big galactic or evil force wanting to control all that you do for the next forever and ever, amen.

No. It is the mind and belief structure of the medium that gives these beings their form much of the time. You believe that there is 50% evil in the world and 50% good and you are just waiting for the day when that “evil” attaches itself to you and rides you like a sweaty night hag? Well then, baby, you will have that day, sure as a rainstorm.

But if you believe that we are all essentially of one Great Source, just walking at different learning points on a similar path and you believe that you can help others by becoming one with their energy for a brief space of time…that’s what you’ll end up experiencing. Like the creator of rainbows.

If you are at the beginning of this adventure and you are experiencing new abilities then just let it ride for a while. See where it takes you. This truly is a gift.

Of course, right now, it may not seem like a gift. But at least know that it can be a gift to others. You can help others, just by being open to spirit. You won’t need to go and spend the eight years in college to become a psychiatrist or parapsychologist. You’ll be able to help them instantly, giving guidance and effecting some much needed resolution.

If you feel fear or pain at the thought of becoming a medium, first embrace the feelings as valid expressions of your own inner self awareness. Then allow yourself the freedom to realize your place within all creation and your oneness with all things.

You ARE those spirits, YOU need to get YOUR message through, YOU need to know resolution, YOU need to heal the wounds that YOU had in life so that YOU can progress onward and upward, unburdened to meet YOUR next challenge.

See how it changes and becomes less threatening when you identify with the fact that we are all one and the same energy force striving for the ultimate awareness so that we can reconnect with our Source? You realize the importance of the work that you are being called to do.

If all else fails and you KNOW that you WANT to follow this path of the medium but you have hit a stumbling block, reach out and make contact with another medium. Tell them about your hopes, your fears and your difficulties.

Some may be short with you. Some may be over-wordy. But all will be familiar with at least some of what you are feeling. And just writing out your experiences will help you, I guarantee it.

Blessings on your own path to self-discovery.

-Vera Nadine